News of a new job deserves attention to the work the person did and the change they are about to manage. Celebrate the offer without turning the conversation into a salary survey, a comparison with your career or a demand to organise a party immediately.
Reflect the effort behind it
Ask what part of the process they are proud of: the portfolio, interview, persistence or decision to change direction. A job title is only one detail. Mentioning the work helps the congratulations feel connected to their experience rather than to status.
Leave private details optional
Salary, employer name, office location and start date may be sensitive or unsettled. Ask what they are comfortable sharing, and focus on what they are excited or nervous about. If the offer has conditions, let them finish checking it before treating it as final.
Choose a celebration that fits
Offer something small and specific, such as coffee after their notice period or a message on the first day. A celebration is an invitation, not another task. If they are exhausted by the search, let congratulations be enough for now.
Message examples
Celebrate the work
You got the product role! I know how many evenings you put into that portfolio. What are you most looking forward to, and would a quiet coffee next week feel good?
It celebrates a concrete effort and offers a manageable plan without requiring salary or employer details.
Respect the details
Iโm really happy for you. Share the company and start date only if you want; Iโd love to hear what made you choose this role.
It makes curiosity optional and directs attention to the personโs decision rather than extracting information.
Frequently asked questions
Is it fine to ask about salary?
Treat salary as optional personal information. Start with congratulations and ask about the work or their feelings; if they volunteer the figure, listen without turning it into a comparison.
What if the job is not my idea of a good move?
Ask what they considered and what they need from you. Unless they request an opinion, support their decision without listing risks or making the announcement about your doubts.
Updated 25 October 2026 ยท By the RIZR team
